Yini efika emqondweni lapho uzwa igama elithi “intukuthelo”?:Ukukhungatheka? Zonke izimpendulo zinengqondo… Noma akunjalo?
Intukuthelo ingaba nohlangothi oluhle noma oluhle: ukubhekana, amandla, ukuqina noma ukwethembeka.
Abekho abantu abaningi abakhulele emindenini lapho bezizwe bephephile ngempela ukuveza imizwa yabo yentukuthelo. Mhlawumbe konke lokhu kuhlangana okungalungile akumangazi kangako uma kucatshangelwa ukuthi iningi lethu alinayo imodeli yentukuthelo enempilo. Intukuthelo, njengezinto eziningi empilweni, ingaba nezici ezinhle (amandla, Ukuthembeka, ukuqina) nokubi (ukukhungatheka, udlame, ukwesaba).
Intukuthelo, ngokwencazelo, “iwumuzwa onamandla wokucasuka nokuba nomsindo ovusa izimpendulo ezinonya.”
Kodwa-ke, incazelo ebanzi yomtholampilo ithi ukuthukuthela kuyisimo sokusebenza okuphakeme noma ukujabula kwesistimu yezinzwa ezizimele (isb., izinga lokushaya kwenhliziyo elikhuphukayo, ukuphefumula okusheshayo, ubuso obuguquguqukayo, izinhlungu zesifuba, izintende ezijulukayo, njll. ) ezondliwa yikho ukuhumusha kwethu amaqiniso.
Singasebenzisa ngokunenzuzo lokho kuqhuma kwamandla ngendlela eyakhayo futhi ngenhloso noma inhloso. Ukuze senze lokhu sidinga izinga eliphakeme lokuzithiba. Ukulawula ukuphefumula kwethu futhi singalahlekelwa umbono womgomo wethu kuyosisiza. Uma sikwazile ukuthola ukusetshenziswa komzwelo onjalo ongalawuleki, sizoba namandla okwenza ezinye izinto eziningi.
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