Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ubuthakathaka bakho obungokwengqondo noma obungokwengqondo ukuze ukwazi ukuzidambisa noma uzisebenzise ukuze uzuze. Ngaphandle kwalokho, lobu buthakathaka buyoba umthwalo kuphela kuyo yonke impilo yakho, bususe impilo yakho engokwengqondo ngisho nangokwenyama.
Kuphela uma uyazi ukuthi ziyini ubuthakathaka bakho obukhawulela kakhulu, uzokwazi ukuzikhulula kubo kanye nezinkinga ezihambisana nazo ezikudalela zona. Ngaleyo ndlela, uzokwazi ukubekela wonke amandla akho kanye namandla akho emigomweni ofuna ukuyifinyelela.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanele ukukhumbule lokho Ukuphazamiseka akusho ukuthi unobuthakathaka ngaso sonke isikhathi. liphinyiselwe kakhulu. Isibonelo, ukucindezeleka kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nobuthakathaka, kodwa akunjalo ngempela...
Ubudlelwano phakathi kobuthakathaka nempilo yengqondo
Kusekhona a i-halo emnyama yokucwaswa, ukucasha kanye nokungavumelani nezinkinga zengqondo. Zizanywa ukuba zibukeke ngamehlo futhi azivamile ukukhulunywa ngazo ngokukhululekile njengososayensi befiziksi. Lokhu kuphinde kuholele ekuntulekeni okukhulu kolwazi mayelana nalezi zinkinga futhi, lapho umuntu etholakala, kucatshangwa ukuthi kungenxa yobuthakathaka.
Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi abanye abantu abahlushwa izifo ezinjengokucindezeleka, ababuthakathaka ngaso sonke isikhathi. Futhi nabo eqinile ngokwengqondo angahlushwa yilezi zinkinga. Kodwa ukuba namandla kuyiphuzu elihlanganisayo lokululama, njengoba kuyibo ngokuvamile abathatha isinyathelo sokuqala sokucela usizo futhi baphume kuleso simo.
Owahlulelayo Abantu abanalezi zinkinga abanawo nomncane umqondo wokuthi kufanele babe nesibindi futhi baqine kangakanani ukuze babekezelele lezi zimo futhi bacele usizo. Ukube bebazi, bebengeke bahlobanise lezi zinkinga nobuthakathaka.
Kuyaqhubeka kumangaza lokho kugula ngengqondo ungakuphathi ngendlela evamile okwamanje yokugula ngokomzimba. Isibonelo, uma othile enomkhuhlane, akekho obuza: «Ungenwe yi-SARS-CoV-2 ngoba ubuthakathaka.«. Kunalokho, kucatshangelwa ezinye izici ezifana nesikhathi sonyaka (ukuqubuka kwezifo), isimiso somzimba sokuzivikela ezifweni, njll.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, i Iziguli ze-SARS-CoV-2, lapho bekwazi ukunqoba lesi sifo, baziphatha njengamaqhawe. Lokhu kuhle kakhulu, futhi ngisho nangokwengeziwe kucatshangelwa isimo esinzima ubhubhane esisishiyile. Kodwa kufanele sifunde ukuphatha amacala anokuphazamiseka kwengqondo ngokulinganayo.
Ngabe ngcono babadumise njengabantu abanamandla abalwa nalesi sifo noma abasinqobile. Kunalokho, abanye babaphatha njengabahlanya, ababuthakathaka, njll. Kodwa abazi ukuthi, njengokugula ngokomzimba, ukugula kwengqondo akulula ukukunqanda ezimweni eziningi nokuthi ngisho nalabo abazibheka njengabanamandla bangaba nakho esikhathini esithile ekuphileni kwabo.
Ubuthakathaka bengqondo
Into yokuqala okumele uyibone ukuthi unobuthakathaka ukubona ukuthi yini eyakho. Umuntu ngamunye uhlukile, futhi sonke siyinhlanganisela ehlukahlukene kakhulu yamandla nobuthakathaka. Futhi akufanele uzizwe unamahloni ngokuba nazo, vele wazi ukuthi ziyini ukuze unciphise umthelela wazo ongemuhle, uziqede noma uziguqule zibe amandla.
"Ubani obengacabanga, ababuthakathaka abapheli amandla."
UMario Benedetti
Ukukhathazeka
Ukukhathazeka Akukubi, kodwa ngezinga elithile. Uma uhlushwa ukuphazamiseka okunjengokukhathazeka, isikhathi osichitha ukhathazekile singakhuphuka kakhulu. Ngakho kuwubuthakathaka okufanele ukuqaphelise ukuthi kukhona okungalungile.
"Impilo yami yayigcwele amashwa, amaningi awo awazange enzeke."
URené Descartes
Igama ngokwalo selivele linikeza umbono wobukhulu bale nkinga.. Uma usibhidliza, sakhiwa isiqalo pre+occupy. Okusho ukuthi, unakekela kangakanani okuthile kusengaphambili. Lokho kuzokuholela ekubeni ube sesimweni esingesihle esizokwenza okuncane ukuxazulula inkinga.
cabanga into eyodwa:
- Ingabe inkinga yakho inaso isixazululo?
- Yebo-ke akufanele ukhathazeke, vele ubheke isisombululo.
- Cha. Pho kungani ukhathazeke, akukho ongakwenza. Uzoba mubi kuphela futhi ube nenkinga.
- Ulindele izehlakalo ongazi ukuthi zizokwenzeka noma cha.
- Uma kwenzeka, khona-ke ukukhathazeka ngeke kukusize ngalutho. Kuphela ukuba kubi futhi ungafaki uhlobo oluthile lwekhambi uma kwenzeka likhona.
- Uma zingenzeki, uzobe umunyu isikhathi eside ngaphandle kwesidingo.
Kufanele uhlale ngaphakathi lapha futhi manje. Okwedlule kudlule, awukwazi ukubikezela ikusasa, okubalulekile manje kuphela. Eqinisweni, uma ufuna ukulawula kusasa kufanele wenze okuthile namuhla. Ngingancoma ukuthi ubukele ifilimu ebizwa ngokuthi IQhawe elinokuthula, noma funda incwadi ka-Dan Millman, indaba yeqiniso emangalisayo lapho ifilimu isekelwe khona. Izokukhuthaza...
Ukubekezela
La ukubekezela Ngobunye ubuthakathaka. Kungaba isithiyo esikhulu ekufinyeleleni imigomo yakho, nakuba kungase kubonakale kuphambene. Umuntu ongenaso isineke akakusheshisi lokho akulindele kakhulu, ezikhathini eziningi uyakududula noma akwenze kungabi yilokho obekulindelekile.
Isizathu ukuthi ukuntula isineke kukuholela ukwenza izinqumo ngokuxhamazela noma ukwenza izinto ngokushesha futhi kabi. Umphumela uzoba okuphambene ngokuphelele nalokhu obukuhlelile. Futhi khumbula ukuthi kwezinye izinto ungabuyela emuva uqale phansi, kodwa kwezinye izinto empilweni awukwazi...
Funda ukulinda futhi usebenzele ukubekezela kwakho. Yonke into inesikhathi sayo, linda nje kufike leso sikhathi. Lokho akusho ukuwela ekungabini lutho noma ukuyeka ukwenza izinto ukuze ufinyelele umgomo. Kumayelana nokuhamba nesinyathelo esiqinile esibheke egoli, ukugwema ukulahleka endleleni.
Ubugovu
El ubugovu kanye ne-ego yakho Ababona abangane abakhulu. Uma bengena phakathi kwakho nezinjongo zakho, bazoba esinye isithiyo. Lokhu kungaholela ekutheni ulahlekelwe ubuhlobo bomndeni, ubungane, futhi ushiywe wedwa. Ngaphandle kokusekelwa nothando oludingekayo lapho udinga ukumbambathwa emhlane, isenzo sozwela, ukugona, noma isikhumbuzo sokuthi ungakwazi futhi wenza kahle.
Ngamafuphi, bambalwa abantu abaseduze kwakho noma abazimisele ukukusiza lapho uludinga. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho unobugovu, ezikhathini eziningi kuyokuholela ekubeni uzizwe uqinisekile ukuzisola ngokuziphatha kwakho. Lowo mthwalo wengqondo awuhlanganisi, ngokuphambene nalokho.
Umona nomona
I-Los umona nomona Zingobunye ubuthakathaka okufanele ububone, uma unabo.
Umona uyakwenza uzizwe isidingo esiphuthumayo sokulawula izimpilo zabanye abantu abakuzungezile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa yizo, noma ngezinye izizathu. Uma lowo mhawu usuke uphazamisekile, lokho kungaholela ekutheni uze ubalimaze, futhi lokho akukona ukuthanda umuntu...
El umphumela uyofana nowobugovu, okungukuthi, ukusika izibopho ezikubopha kwabanye futhi ushiywe wedwa. Kufanele uqonde ukuthi, njengawe, nabanye badinga ukuzimela nenkululeko ethile. Lokho akusho ukuthi bayayeka ukukuthanda noma bayahamba.
Konke umhlaba awuzuli ngakuwe, futhi awukwazi ukukufuna konke futhi. Uma othile ewina umklomelo, enza okuthile, noma enento ongenayo, umona onempilo uvamile. Kodwa umona ongenampilo uyagxila futhi uwenze ufiphaze indlela yakho ebheke ezinhlosweni zakho futhi ukuthathele kuphela umuzwa onawo ngalowo muntu ozuze lokho obukufuna.
Cowardice
I-Las izintshe Afihle amakhanda ashiye wonke umzimba ngaphandle. Bakholelwa ukuthi njengoba bengaluboni usongo, usongo alusaluboni. Akukho okungaba ngaphezu kweqiniso...
El ukwesaba, noma ubugwala, Cishe ubuthakathaka obubi kakhulu futhi yibo okudala izinkinga eziningi empilweni yakho. Ukuze uthole okufunayo, ngezinye izikhathi kufanele ushiye indawo yakho yokunethezeka, lapho unomuzwa wokuphepha, kodwa okukuvimbela ukuthi uqhubekele phambili.
Kumelwe ube njenge-lynx, onelukuluku lokwazi, ofuna okuhlangenwe nakho okusha, athathe isinyathelo ngokushesha, anqume futhi ahlakaniphe kakhulu. Okuphambene kufana nembaza, eyisicefe, eshwabene, futhi lapho kukhona okungahambi kahle kuyo, ivaleka ngegobolondo layo ukuze izihlukanise.
«Ukukhubazeka okukhulu ukwesaba.«
Nick Vujicic
Ngincoma ukuthi ufunde incwadi Iqhawe eligqoke izikhali ezigqwalile nguRobert Fisher. Incwadi emfushane, kodwa engachithiwe. Kuyokwenza uqonde ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba nesibindi.
ukuhambisana
Kwesinye isikhathi ungenza njengenundu, uzijwayeze nemvelo ekuzungezile futhi uhlangane nayo ukuze uthole ukuma okunethezekile. Kodwa ukuhambisana Akukuhle, kufana nokwesaba okwenza ungathathi izinyathelo ezidingekayo ukuze uzuze lokho okufuna kakhulu.
Kwesinye isikhathi lokhu kuvumelana kuvela ngokuthatha indawo enethezeke kakhulu. Kwezinye izikhathi kungenxa yenkolelo yokuthi ngeke ukwazi ukuzuza okuthile, ngakho kungani uzame? Kodwa uma ungazami awusoze wazi ukuthi ungakwazi noma cha. Eqinisweni, ungamangala ukuthi kukangaki umuntu etshelwa ukuthi "ngeke ukwazi»futhi bazuze izinto ezimangalisayo. Futhi ungamvumeli lowo okutshelayo «ngeke ukwazi" Iba nguwe…
«Asilokothi senze izinto eziningi ngoba zinzima, kepha zinzima ngoba asinakulokotha ukuzenza.«
I-Seneca
Yebo ungakwazi futhi, esimweni esibi kakhulu, uzothola ngokuqinisekile kakhulu kunalokhu onakho manje. Kufanele ube nesifiso sokuzuza izinto ezinkulu. Uma ungqongqoza iminyango, maningi amathuba okuthi uzovuleka, uma ubheka phezulu, uzokhuphukela phezulu. Awunalutho ongalahlekelwa, kodwa konke ongakuzuza!
Uthisha enganginaye esikoleni esiphakeme wayevame ukuthi ekilasini: "Hlala njalo u-10. Khona-ke uzohlala ku-8 noma u-9. Kodwa uma uhamba ngo-5, uzohlala ku-3 noma u-4.".
Intukuthelo
Izwe alinacala ngalokho okwenzeka kuwe. Kumelwe ufunde ukuyeka ukuba ihange esikhathini esidlule futhi uthwale ukucasuka njengomusho onzima owuthwala impilo yakho yonke. Zikhulule kuleyo nkinga futhi ungayivumeli ukuthi ikuhluphe impilo yakho yonke.
Nakuba lo muzwa okunzima ukukunqoba, njengoba kubangelwa umonakalo ojulile ogcinwe ngaphakathi, kufanele wenze umzamo wokuwufinyelela.
Noma ngabe uhlaselwe, ucasuliwe, noma yini enye, kufanele funda ukuthethelela (noma okungenani wamukele). Lokhu kukukhulula ngokomzwelo, futhi kuvimbele ukuthi ungaweli kwezinye izinkinga ezitholakala ekucasukeni, njengokuzihlukanisa nomphakathi, ukulahlekelwa abangane noma umndeni, njll.
Ukuzithoba
Kunezinhlobo eziningi ukuncika. Kusukela ekuthembeleni ngokomzwelo, ukuncika ngokomzimba ezintweni noma kubantu, ukuncika ezintweni ezifana nezidakamizwa, njll. Lokhu kuncika kukwenza uwele esiphethweni esingamanga sokuthi ngaphandle kwalokho othembele kukho awukwazi ukuphila noma, okungenani, hhayi ngendlela efanayo.
Kodwa lokhu kuncika akusona isixazululo, kukugcina uboshelwe isikhathi eside kuleyo nto othembele kuyo futhi kukuvimbele ekutholeni isisombululo esisebenzayo ezinkingeni zakho noma ekutholeni okufunayo.
Uma uwela kulokhu okuguquguqukayo, uzoba ne- umuzwa wokumosha isikhathi okubalulekile ongasakwazi ukululama. Ngakho-ke, kufanele uqale ukuzimela futhi unqobe lokho kuncika okukubophe manje.
Vala ukuzizwisa okusha
Nini uzivalele ukuzizwisa okusha, uyazivimbela ekugxileni ezinseleleni ezintsha noma emikhakheni engaletha ushintsho oluhle noma ukuthuthukiswa empilweni yakho. Lokho futhi kukhubaza ukukhula kwakho komuntu siqu, futhi kukwenze ube umuntu ongaphelele.
Si ulinge ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala, izwe elisha lokuhlangenwe nakho lizovuleka phambi kwakho futhi uzothola izinto ezimangalisayo. Zivumele ukuthi uphume endaweni yakho yokunethezeka futhi ufune ukuzizwisa okusha ngezikhathi ezithile. Umuzwa wokwaneliseka uyoba mkhulu.
Ubani okutshela ukuthi uma uthatha leso sinyathelo ngeke uzohlangana nalelo thuba osuliphuphe kakhulu, noma nalowo muntu omthandayo, njll.?
Ira
Ekugcineni, ulaka Kungobunye ubuthakathaka obukhulu. Nakuba kungase kuzwakale njengehlaya, u-Master Yoda usho umusho ohlakaniphile ku-movie i-Star Wars: «Ukwesaba kuholela entukuthelweni, intukuthelo iholela enzondweni, inzondo iholela ekuhluphekeni, ukuhlupheka ohlangothini olumnyama.«
Wonke umuntu angazizwa ethukuthele ngesikhathi esithile empilweni yakhe, kodwa ukuphathwa kabi Lokhu kungadala uchungechunge lwezinkinga ezingakuholela ekwenzeni izinto ezingasile ngempela ozozisola ngazo kuphela uma sekudlule isikhathi.
Intukuthelo iholela ekuvezeni intukuthelo ngezindlela eziningi, futhi enye yazo la udlame lokho kungaholela ekutheni ulimaze othile. Ukudala ubuhlungu, ukuhlupheka noma ukulimala kwabanye ngeke kukwenze owakho ume. Lokho kuletha izinkinga kuphela futhi kukuphuphuthekise.
Zama khululeka, yiba nozwelo futhi uzibeke ezicathulweni zomunye umuntu. Cabanga kabili ngaphambi kokwenza okuthile... Ezimweni eziningi uzoqaphela ukuthi umuntu ozama ukukhiphela kuye intukuthelo akayena ngisho necala ngalokho okwenzekayo.
Guqula ubuthakathaka bakho bube amandla
Ngakho ungakwenza sebenzisa labo buthakathaka ukuze uzuze, Kufanele uwaguqule abe amandla. Kungale ndlela kuphela lapho uzophulukisa futhi ukwazi ukufuna ibhalansi. Ukuze ufinyelele kuleso simo, kufanele wenze okulandelayo:
- Zithande futhi uzihloniphe. Kungale ndlela kuphela lapho uyokwazi khona ukuthanda nokuhlonipha abanye.
- Thola ubuthakathaka futhi ungazizwa ukhungathekile ngabo.
- Yima komunye nomunye bese uzama ukuthola Uhlangothi oluhle. Ukukhuluma ngazo nakho kungakusiza.
- Thola isixazululo kulabo abantu abanobuthi Bazama ukusizakala ngobuthakathaka bakho ukuze uthole inzuzo ethile.
- Zama ukuthuthukisa amandla lokho kulwisana nobuthakathaka. Ngokwesibonelo, uma unobugovu, zama ukupha abanye. Uzobona ukuthi kukududuza kanjani, ngeke nje kuqede ubuthakathaka bakho, kodwa kuyobe sekuguqulelwe amandla...