Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ubuthakathaka bakho bengqondo noma bengqondo ukuze ukwazi ukubunciphisa noma ukubusebenzisela inzuzo yakho. Ngaphandle kwalokho, lobu buthakathaka buzoba umthwalo empilweni yakho yonke, bunciphise impilo yakho yengqondo ngisho neyomzimba.
Kuphela ngokubona ubuthakathaka bakho obuvimbela kakhulu lapho ungazikhulula khona kubo kanye nezinkinga ezihlobene nabo. Ngale ndlela, unganikela wonke amandla akho kanye namandla akho emigomweni ofuna ukuyifinyelela.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi ukuphazamiseka akusho ukuthi unobuthakathaka obukhulu ngaso sonke isikhathi. Isibonelo, ukucindezeleka kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nobuthakathaka, kodwa akunjalo ngempela...
Ubudlelwano phakathi kobuthakathaka nempilo yengqondo
Kusekhona isimo esimnyama sokucwaswa, ukufihla, kanye nokungavunyelwa okuphathelene nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo. Zivame ukufihlwa futhi azixoxwa ngokukhululekile njengezifo zomzimba. Lokhu kuholela nasekuntuleni okukhulu ukuqonda lezi zinkinga, futhi uma zitholakala, zivame ukubangelwa ubuthakathaka.
Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi abanye abantu abahlushwa izifo ezifana nokucindezeleka ababi buthaka ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngisho nabantu abanamandla ngokwengqondo bangabhekana nalezi zinkinga. Kodwa-ke, ukuba namandla kuyinzuzo yokululama, njengoba ngokuvamile beba ngabokuqala ukuthatha isinyathelo sokucela usizo nokuphuma kuleso simo.
Labo abahlulela abantu abanalezi zinkinga abazi ukuthi kudinga isibindi namandla kangakanani ukubekezelela lezi zimo nokucela usizo. Ukube bebengakwenza lokho, bebengeke bahlanganise lezi zinkinga nobuthakathaka.
Kusamangaza ukuthi ukugula ngengqondo akukaphathwa ngezinga elifanayo lokunakekelwa njengokugula ngokomzimba. Isibonelo, uma umuntu enesifo somkhuhlane, akekho obuza ukuthi, " Uthole i-SARS-CoV-2 ngoba ubuthakathaka. " Kunalokho, kucatshangelwa ezinye izici, njengesikhathi sonyaka (ukuqubuka), amasosha omzimba womuntu, njalo njalo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, labo abalulama ku-SARS-CoV-2 baphathwa njengamaqhawe. Lokhu kuhle kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma ucabangela isimo esinzima ubhubhane olusishiye ngemuva. Kodwa kufanele sifunde ukuphatha amacala okugula ngengqondo ngenhlonipho efanayo.
Kungcono ukubancoma njengabantu abanamandla abalwa nalesi sifo noma abasinqobile. Kunalokho, abanye babaphatha njengabahlanyayo, ababuthakathaka, njll. Kodwa abaqapheli ukuthi, njengokugula ngokomzimba, ukugula kwengqondo akulula ukukuvimbela ezimweni eziningi, nokuthi ngisho nalabo abazibheka njengabanamandla bangabhekana nakho ngesikhathi esithile empilweni yabo.
Ubuthakathaka bengqondo
Into yokuqala okumele uyibone ukuthi unobuthakathaka ukubona ukuthi yini eyakho. Umuntu ngamunye uhlukile, futhi sonke siyinhlanganisela ehlukahlukene kakhulu yamandla nobuthakathaka. Futhi akufanele uzizwe unamahloni ngokuba nazo, vele wazi ukuthi ziyini ukuze unciphise umthelela wazo ongemuhle, uziqede noma uziguqule zibe amandla.
"Ubani obengacabanga, ababuthakathaka abapheli amandla."
UMario Benedetti
Ukukhathazeka
Ukukhathazeka akukubi, kodwa kuze kufike eqophelweni elithile. Uma unesifo esifana nokukhathazeka, isikhathi osichitha ukhathazekile singakhuphuka kakhulu. Bese kuba ubuthakathaka okufanele bukuxwayise ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle.
"Impilo yami yayigcwele amashwa, amaningi awo awazange enzeke."
URené Descartes
Igama ngokwalo linikeza umbono ngobukhulu bale nkinga . Uma uyichaza, yakhiwe yisiqalo esithi "pre" + "occupy." Okusho ukuthi, uma unakekela okuthile kusengaphambili. Lokhu kuzokuholela esimweni esingesihle esizokwenza okuncane ukuxazulula inkinga.
Cabanga ngalokhu :
- Ingabe inkinga yakho inaso isixazululo?
- Yebo-ke akufanele ukhathazeke, vele ubheke isisombululo.
- Cha. Pho kungani ukhathazeke, akukho ongakwenza. Uzoba mubi kuphela futhi ube nenkinga.
- Ulindele izehlakalo ongazi ukuthi zizokwenzeka noma cha.
- Uma kwenzeka, khona-ke ukukhathazeka ngeke kukusize ngalutho. Kuphela ukuba kubi futhi ungafaki uhlobo oluthile lwekhambi uma kwenzeka likhona.
- Uma zingenzeki, uzobe umunyu isikhathi eside ngaphandle kwesidingo.
Kumelwe uphile lapha namanje . Isikhathi esidlule sidlule, ikusasa alibikezeleki, okwamanje kuphela okubalulekile. Eqinisweni, uma ufuna ukulawula ikusasa, kufanele wenze namuhla. Ngingancoma ukuthi ubukele i-movie ebizwa ngokuthi i-Peaceful Warrior , noma ufunde incwadi kaDan Millman, indaba eyiqiniso emangalisayo ifilimu esekelwe kuyo. Izokuphefumulela…
Ukubekezela
Ukungabekezeli kungenye indlela yobuthakathaka. Kungaba yisithiyo esikhulu ekufezeni imigomo yakho, noma kungabonakala kuhlukile. Umuntu ongenaso isineke akasheshisi lokho akufunayo kakhulu; ngokuvamile, uyakudedela kude noma akuvimbele ukuthi kuphume njengoba kulindelekile.
Isizathu ukuthi ukubekezela kukuholela ekwenzeni izinqumo ngokushesha noma ukwenza izinto ngokushesha nangokubi . Umphumela uzoba okuphambene nalokho obekuhlelile. Futhi khumbula ukuthi kwezinye izinto ungabuyela emuva uqale kabusha, kodwa kwezinye izinto empilweni awukwazi…
Funda ukulinda futhi uhlakulele ukubekezela . Konke kunesikhathi sakho; linda nje ukuthi kufike lowo mzuzu. Lokhu akusho ukuthi awusasebenzi noma uyeke imigomo yakho. Kusho ukuthi umane uqhubekele phambili kancane kancane ukuze ugweme ukulahleka endleleni.
Ubugovu
Ubugovu kanye nokuzazisa kwakho akubona abangane abahle. Uma kuphakathi kwakho nemigomo yakho, kuzoba esinye isithiyo. Lokhu kungaholela ekulahlekelweni yizibopho zomndeni, ubungane, nokugcina uwedwa. Ngaphandle kokusekelwa nothando oludingekayo lapho udinga ukushaywa emhlane, isenzo sozwela, ukumanga, noma isikhumbuzo sokuthi ungakwenza nokuthi wenza kahle.
Ekugcineni, uzoba nabantu abambalwa abaseduze kwakho noma abazimisele ukukusiza uma ukudinga. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubugovu buvame ukuholela emizweni yokuzisola . Lo mthwalo wengqondo awuzuzisi; empeleni, uyalimaza.
Umona nomona
Umona nomona kungobunye ubuthakathaka okudingeka ububone, uma unabo.
Umona ukwenza uzizwe unesidingo esikhulu sokulawula izimpilo zabanye abakuzungezile, kungaba ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa yibo noma ngezinye izizathu. Uma lowo mhawu usuqala ukuba yimbangela yesifo, ungakuholela ngisho nasekubalimazeni, futhi lokho akusikho ukuthanda umuntu.
Umphumela uzofana nobugovu : ukunqamula izibopho ezikubophayo kwabanye bese ugcina uwedwa. Kufanele uqonde ukuthi, njengawe, nabanye badinga izinga elithile lokuzimela nenkululeko. Lokho akusho ukuthi bazoyeka ukukuthanda noma ukuziqhelelanisa.
Izwe alikujikelezi , futhi awukwazi ukufuna konke. Uma othile ewina umklomelo, ethenga, noma enezinto ongenazo, umona omncane onempilo uvamile. Kodwa umona ongemuhle uyakhula futhi ufiphaze indlela yakho eya emigomweni yakho, okwenza uhlale ucabanga ngemizwa onayo ngomuntu ofeze lokho obukufuna.
Cowardice
Izintshe zifihla amakhanda azo futhi zishiya yonke imizimba yazo isobala. Zikholelwa ukuthi njengoba zingaboni usongo, usongo alukwazi ukuzibona. Kodwa akukho okungaba kude neqiniso …
Ukwesaba , noma ubugwala, mhlawumbe buwubuthakathaka obubi kakhulu futhi yibo obubangela izinkinga eziningi empilweni yakho. Ukuze uthole lokho okufunayo, ngezinye izikhathi kufanele ushiye indawo yakho yokunethezeka, lapho uzizwa uphephile khona, kodwa okukuvimbela ukuthi uqhubekele phambili.
Kumelwe ube njenge-lynx : unelukuluku, ufuna okuhlangenwe nakho okusha, uthatha isinyathelo ngokushesha, uthatha isinqumo, futhi uhlakaniphile kakhulu. Okuphambene nalokho ukuba njenge-clam: isicefe, ukwesaba, futhi uma kukhona okungahambi kahle, iyavala igobolondo layo ukuze izihlukanise.
" Ukukhubazeka okukhulu ukwesaba. "
Nick Vujicic
Ngincoma ukuthi ufunde incwadi ethi The Knight in Rusty Armor ebhalwe nguRobert Fisher. Yincwadi emfushane impela, kodwa ikufanele ukufundwa. Izokusiza uqonde ukubaluleka kokuba nesibindi.
ukuhambisana
Ngezinye izikhathi ungase uziphathe njengenundu, uzivumelanise nendawo okuyo futhi uzihlanganise ukuze uthole indawo ekhululekile. Kodwa ukuzola akukuhle; kufana nokwesaba, okukuvimbela ekuthatheni izinyathelo ezidingekayo ukuze ufeze lokho okufisa kakhulu.
Ngezinye izikhathi lokho kuzethemba kuvela nje ekuthatheni isikhundla esikhululekile kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi kuvela enkolelweni yokuthi ngeke ukwazi ukufeza okuthile, ngakho kungani uzama? Kodwa uma ungazami, awusoze wazi ukuthi ungakwazi noma cha. Eqinisweni, ungamangala ukuthi kukangaki umuntu etshelwe ukuthi " awukwazi " futhi waqhubeka nokufeza izinto ezimangalisayo. Ungazivumeli ukuthi ube nguwe okutshela ukuthi " awukwazi "...
" Asinasibindi sokwenza izinto eziningi ngoba zinzima, kodwa zinzima ngoba asinesibindi sokwenza. "
I-Seneca
Yebo, ungakwazi, futhi esimweni esibi kakhulu, ngokuqinisekile uzofinyelela okungaphezu kwalokho onakho manje . Kumelwe ube nesifiso sokufeza izinto ezinkulu. Lapho ungqongqoza eminyango eminingi, amathuba okuba uvuleke maningi; lapho uhlose kakhulu, kulapho uzofinyelela khona phezulu. Awunalutho ongalulahlekelwa, kodwa konke ongakuzuza!
Uthisha enganginaye esikoleni samabanga aphezulu wayevame ukuthi ekilasini: " Hlala uhlose u-10. Ngemuva kwalokho uzothola u-8 noma u-9. Kodwa uma uhlose u-5, uzothola u-3 noma u-4. "
Intukuthelo
Umhlaba awuyona icala ngalokho okwenzekayo kuwe. Kumelwe ufunde ukuyeka ukunamathela esikhathini esidlule nokuthwala intukuthelo njengomthwalo osindayo empilweni yakho yonke. Zikhulule kuleyo nkinga futhi ungavumeli ukuthi ikuhluphe impilo yakho yonke.
Nakuba lo muzwa kunzima ukuwunqoba , njengoba ubangelwa ubuhlungu obujulile obuhlala ngaphakathi, umuntu kumelwe alwele ukuwufinyelela.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlaselwe, ukhubekile, noma yini enye, kumele ufunde ukuthethelela (noma okungenani ukwamukela) . Lokhu kukukhulula ngokomzwelo futhi kukuvimbele ekuweleni kwezinye izinkinga ezivela ekuthukutheleni, njengokuzihlukanisa nabantu, ukulahlekelwa abangane noma umndeni, njll.
Ukuzithoba
Kunezinhlobo eziningi zokuthembela . Kusukela ekuthembeleni ngokomzwelo, ekuthembeleni ngokomzimba ezintweni noma kubantu, ekuthembeleni ezintweni ezifana nezidakamizwa, njll. Lokhu kuncikeni kukuholela esiphethweni esingamanga sokuthi awukwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwalokho othembele kukho, noma okungenani hhayi ngendlela efanayo.
Kodwa lokhu kuncika akusona isisombululo ; kukugcina uboshelwe kulokho othembele kukho isikhathi eside futhi kukuvimbele ekutholeni ikhambi elifanele lezinkinga zakho noma ekufezeni lokho okufunayo.
Uma uwela kulokhu okuguquguqukayo, uzoba ne- umuzwa wokumosha isikhathi okubalulekile ongasakwazi ukululama. Ngakho-ke, kufanele uqale ukuzimela futhi unqobe lokho kuncika okukubophe manje.
Vala ukuzizwisa okusha
Uma uzivalela kokuhlangenwe nakho okusha , uzivimbela ekugxileni ezinseleleni ezintsha noma ezindaweni ezingaletha ushintsho noma intuthuko enhle empilweni yakho. Lokhu futhi kukhubaza intuthuko yakho siqu futhi kukwenze umuntu ongaphelele.
Uma unesibindi sokuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala , umhlaba omusha wezinto ezijabulisayo uzovuleka phambi kwakho, futhi uzothola izinto ezinhle kakhulu. Zivumele ukuphuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka futhi ufune izinto ezintsha ngezikhathi ezithile. Umuzwa wokwaneliseka uzoba mkhulu kakhulu.
Ubani ongathi uma uthatha leso sinyathelo ngeke uzitholele lelo thuba obeliphupha , noma lowo muntu omthandayo, njll.?
Ira
Ekugcineni, intukuthelo ingenye ubuthakathaka obukhulu. Nakuba kungase kuzwakale sengathi ihlaya, uMaster Yoda usho inkulumo ehlakaniphile ku-movie ye-Star Wars: " Ukwesaba kuholela entukuthelweni, intukuthelo iholela enzondweni, inzondo iholela ekuhluphekeni, ukuhlupheka kuholela ohlangothini olumnyama. "
Wonke umuntu angazizwa ethukuthele ngesikhathi esithile empilweni yakhe, kodwa ukuyiphatha kabi kungabangela uchungechunge lwezinkinga ezingakuholela ekwenzeni izinto ezihlanya ngempela ozozisola ngazo kuphela uma sekwephuze kakhulu.
Intukuthelo ingabonakala ngezindlela eziningi, futhi enye yazo ubudlova, obungakuholela ekulimazeni othile. Ukuzwisa ubuhlungu, ukuhlupheka, noma ukulimaza abanye ngeke kuqede intukuthelo yakho. Kudala izinkinga futhi kukuphuphuthekise.
Zama ukuphumula, ube nozwela, futhi uzibeke esimweni somunye umuntu . Cabanga kabili ngaphambi kokuba wenze okuthile... Ezimweni eziningi, uzobona ukuthi umuntu ozama ukukhipha intukuthelo yakho kuye akayona ngisho necala ngalokho okwenzekayo.
Guqula ubuthakathaka bakho bube amandla
Ukuze usebenzise lobo buthakathaka ukuze kuzuze wena, kufanele ubuguqule bube amandla. Kulapho-ke kuphela lapho uzophola khona futhi uthole ibhalansi. Ukuze ufinyelele kuleso simo, kufanele wenze okulandelayo:
- Zithande futhi uzihloniphe. Kungale ndlela kuphela lapho uyokwazi khona ukuthanda nokuhlonipha abanye.
- Thola ubuthakathaka futhi ungazizwa ukhungathekile ngabo.
- Yima komunye nomunye bese uzama ukuthola Uhlangothi oluhle. Ukukhuluma ngazo nakho kungakusiza.
- Thola isixazululo kulabo abantu abanobuthi Bazama ukusizakala ngobuthakathaka bakho ukuze uthole inzuzo ethile.
- Zama ukuthuthukisa amandla lokho kulwisana nobuthakathaka. Ngokwesibonelo, uma unobugovu, zama ukupha abanye. Uzobona ukuthi kukududuza kanjani, ngeke nje kuqede ubuthakathaka bakho, kodwa kuyobe sekuguqulelwe amandla...