Sawubona, okokuqala ngithanda ukuthi ubone ividiyo engiyiqophe njengesethulo salesi sihloko:

Ngithuthukisa isihloko engikhuluma ngaso kuvidiyo ngendlela enwetshiwe futhi okokuqala kule bhulogi  Izinsiza zokuzisiza zokuthuthuka kwakho komuntu siqu, ungayifunda ngezansi:

UKUNGANENELISEKI

Umqondo womuntu, ngokwejwayelekile, uhlukene phakathi kwalokho akwaziyo ngaye, lena ingxenye UYAZI futhi lokho umuntu akwaziyo yingxenye ENGAKWAZI. Lesi sakamuva siphawulwe ngezethu umlando womuntu siqu futhi kuyo kuhlala izifiso zethu ezicindezelwe, ukukhungatheka kanye nezingxabano ezingaxazululeki.

Kwesinye isikhathi asiziniki isikhathi esanele sokuzilalela futhi sazi ukuthi sifunani ngempela kanti kwesinye isikhathi asikwazi ukuzilalela thina, ngeke sikwazi.

Ngifuna sibone icala:

“Isiguli esineminyaka engamashumi amathathu nane sifika ehhovisi lami ngoba sizizwa kahle ukukhathazeka y Uyabona ukuthi kunento engasebenzi kahle empilweni yakho kodwa awazi ukuthi ungayichaza kanjani ukuthi iyini.

Njengoba izikhathi ziqhubeka, siyabona ukuthi akazizwa ekhululekile ngendawo akuyo emkhayeni wakhe. Ngenxa yezizathu ezihlukahlukene zomuntu siqu, kuye kwadingeka abuye ayohlala nabazali bakhe futhi uzizwa ephathwa njengengane. Akakwazi ukuchaza indawo yakhe nakuba ezizwa esezingeni lokuqaphela ngikhungathekile futhi ngingakhululekile naleso sikhundla.

Ngiyabonga umsebenzi we-psychotherapeutic esikwenzile, i inzuzo engazi lutho efihliwe ngemuva kokuhlupheka kwakhoNgamafuphi, wayefuna ukujabulisa abazali bakhe njengoba ebona sengathi bamenzela umusa omkhulu ngokumvulela iminyango yendlu yabo equlekile. wavuma ukuzibeka ngendlela yobungane.

Kamuva, lesi siguli wakwazi ukuqonda nokuchaza kabanzi izizathu ezazigcina le ndlela yokuba kanye nokwenza emndenini wakhe futhi wakwazi shintsha y khululeka yokukhathazeka engangikuzwa ngaphambili.”

Izici okufanele zicatshangelwe:

• Kungenzeka ukuthi uthathwe yizidingo ezihlala ku-Unconscious yakho futhi ngezinye izikhathi ezingenayo ngokuphambene ngalokho okufunayo ngamabomu, yilapho kuqala khona ukunganeliseki kwakho nokungakhululeki ngokomzwelo ngoba kungadala izimpawu zokukhathazeka, usizi, ukudangala, ukudangala,...

• Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi lokhu kuphatheka kabi kuvezwa ngendlela ethule kakhudlwana futhi engacasula kangako, ngokwesibonelo, kungavezwa ngokwenza izinqumo ezingalungile ezingahambelani nalokho okufunayo ngempela, futhi ngenxa yalokho impilo yakho ingathatha isiqondiso ukuthi ayikhethi ukwaneliseka kwezidingo zakho.

Esinye isibonelo:

“Isiguli esize kuboniswana ngoba sizizwa ukunganeliseki Ngokuphila kwakhe, wayengumakhi wezakhiwo futhi ephuma emndenini wabadwebi bezakhiwo abadumile.

Ngaphandle kokwazi ukuthi ufunani, wazithola esefundela ukwakha futhi kamuva wasebenza ebhizinisini lomndeni, ngaleyo ndlela waqhubeka nesiko elalifika kuye ngokuthi. "ebekiwe" y ukuhlangabezana nalokho okulindeleke kubazali babo.

Wayengenaso isikhala buza ukuthi ufunani ngempela futhi njengoba iminyaka idlula kanye nokusebenza komsebenzi wakhe wobungcweti, wazizwa enganelisekile ngempilo yakhe futhi akazange azivumele ukuba alalele isifiso sakhe, wayenomsebenzi owaziwayo, izimo zokusebenza ezinethezekile kanye neholo elihle, ngakolunye uhlangothi. wayesejwayele kanti ngakolunye uhlangothi wayenalo esaba kakhulu ushintsho futhi edumaza umndeni wakhe.

Nokho, isifiso sakhe sangempela sasisekhona, futhi wezwa a ukunganeliseki okujulile okwanxephezela ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuthenga okuphoqelekile.

Ngiyabonga umsebenzi wokwelapha wakwazi ukuveza ukuthi yini emvimbe ekungabazeni isifiso sakhe sangempela futhi wenza inqubo yoku ukuchaza kanye nokuzamukela. Ngingakutshela ukuthi okwamanje omunye umsebenzi azizwa egcwaliseke futhi enelisekile ngawo. "

Ukunganeliseki kuhlobene nezifiso ezijulile esingazilaleli noma sihoxa esikhathini esizayo ngenxa:

• ukufuna ukwanelisa izifiso zabazali bethu noma zabathandekayo bethu, noma
• besaba ukuthi bazothini,
• ukwesaba ukwehluleka, noma
• ukwesaba ukushiya indawo yethu yokunethezeka (esikujwayele),...

Icala ngalinye lihlukile futhi izizathu ezingasenza sizizwe singanelisekile ngezimpilo zethu nazo zihlukene.

Ukuqeda, ngifuna ukwabelana nawe a ukukhombisa nguPablo Neruda:

“Ongaliphenduli itafula uma engeneme emsebenzini, ongazibeki engcupheni yabangaqinisekile ukuze aphishekele iphupho, ufa kancane.”

Laura Royo, Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.

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