Mhlawumbe wake wezwa igama elithi 'sadism' noma 'sadistic'... ngaphandle kokwazi ukuthi lesi sifo singaba namazinga angakanani engozi. Kuyadingeka ukufunda ukuhlukanisa i-sadism ne-masochism ngoba ayifani, nakuba bobabili banesimo socansi.
ukudabuka ngokocansi
I-Sadism ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo lapho umuntu ezwa khona izifiso zobulili ezeneliswa kuphela ukudala ubuhlungu komunye umuntu. Leli gama laqanjwa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseJalimane sangekhulunyaka le-19 uRichard von Krafft-Ebing sibhekisela kuMarquis de Sade, isikhulu saseFrance sangekhulu le-18 esabhala imikhuba yaso yobulili.
Ukudabuka kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nokucasuka ngokocansi, lapho ukucasuka ngokocansi kubangelwa ukuzwa ubuhlungu, futhi abantu abaningi basabela kunoma iyiphi indima. Nokho, umuntu odabuka ngokocansi uvame ukufuna isisulu esingenaso isifiso sokucasuka ngokocansi, njengoba ingxenye yokucasuka ngokocansi ivela ekuntuleni kwemvume yesisulu. Lokhu kusho ukuthi umuntu odabuka ngokocansi uvuswa ngokuzwisa ubuhlungu isisulu esingafuni ukubuthola; ngakho-ke, ukudabuka ngokocansi kuyisenzo sobudlova, futhi ukukwenza ngezinga elikhulu kungaba yicala elijeziswa ngumthetho.
Izinga kanye nobukhulu bobudlova obunonya bungahluka kakhulu, kusukela ekubangeleni ubuhlungu obuncane ekudlaleni ngokocansi ngendlela engabangeli bungozi kuya ekuhlukunyezweni okukhulu, okungabangela ukulimala okukhulu noma ukufa ngezinye izikhathi.
Ukwaneliseka komuntu onesihluku kungase kungaveli ekuzwiseni ubuhlungu bangempela bomzimba, kodwa kunalokho ekuhluphekeni kwengqondo kwesisulu. Okubajabulisa ngempela akukhona ukulimala ngokomzimba, amanxeba, noma imihuzuko; abakuthola kujabulisa ngokocansi ukubona ukucindezeleka nobuhlungu bengqondo besisulu.
Izifiso zobulili zingase zinciphise izinga lobudlova, kodwa kwezinye izimo umfutho oshubile uba mkhulu futhi odabukisayo athuthukele ekuboniseni ukweqisa okukhulu kokuthambekela kwakhe kobudlova. I-Sadism ingaba yimbangela yobugebengu obunobudlova, ikakhulukazi lapho kudlwengulwa bese kuba nokubulala.
Igama elithi sadism ngezinye izikhathi lisetshenziswa ngaphandle komongo wobulili ukuchaza abantu abanonya ngamabomu noma ababonakala bethola injabulo ngokuhlazisa nokulawula abanye ezimweni zomphakathi. Kulesi simo, ezinye izinhlobo ezilula zosizi zamukeleka kakhulu emphakathini, njengokusebenzisa ukugcona okuhlazisayo njengethuluzi lengxoxo.
Izimbangela zokudabuka ngokocansi
Kungenzeka ukuthi umuntu onomunyu usephenduke lolu hlobo lwendaba ngenxa yokuhlukunyezwa okungenzeka kwasebuntwaneni, nakuba empeleni izimbangela eziqondile ezihambisana nalesi sifo socansi zingaziwa.
Ngokuvamile, lolu hlobo lwabantu lufunda kusukela ebuntwaneni, ngokumodela, ukulimaza abanye, lukholelwa ukuthi kuyindlela yokubonisa uthando. Kungenzeka ukuthi abazali babo bahlukumezana, kwaba nobudlova basekhaya, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ingane yaphathwa kabi, okwaholela ekubeni ikhule ibe umuntu ononya.
Abantu abadabukisayo banokusebenza okukhulu kwezinye izingxenye zobuchopho lapho bebuka izithombe ezibonisa ubuhlungu noma ukuhlupheka.
Ukwelapha
Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo ngokuvamile kuyindlela efanele kakhulu futhi enconywayo yokwelapha abantu abanesifo socansi. Kuhilela ukubhekana nemicabango, imizwa, kanye nokuziphatha komuntu.
Ukuziphatha komuntu kuzolungiswa ngamasu athize ukuze lowo muntu akwazi ukulawula le mikhuba yocansi okuthi, ngaphezu kokulimaza, ibe yingozi futhi ingaba wubugebengu.
i-sadistic personality disorder
Umuntu onesifo sobuntu esinonya uzobonisa indlela yokuziphatha okubangela izifo nonya. Uzophatha kabi abanye futhi ahlale enolaka kubo. Njengokuhlukumeza ngokocansi, umuntu uyakujabulela, uthola injabulo nokwaneliseka ngokubona abanye behlupheka ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo, kungaba ngenxa yobuhlungu obungokomzimba noma ukuhlazeka.
Ukuze bathole lokhu kwaneliseka ngokulimaza ukuhlupheka kwabanye, abantu abanonya bangasebenzisa ubudlova ngamazwi ngisho nangomzimba. Ayikho inhloso ethile yokulimaza lokhu; izisulu azinacala futhi ngokuvamile aziqondi ukuthi kungani zihlaselwa. Eqinisweni, abantu abanesifo sonya babangela ubuhlungu ngenxa nje yokwenza kanjalo.
Ngokuvamile, abantu abanosizi, abanolaka kakhulu, bafaka ukwesaba kubantu futhi ngokuphoqwa kwabo bangakwazi ukufeza izinhloso abazibekele ukuzifinyelela. Bangabantu abakhohlisayo nabalawulayo abafuna ukukhawulela intando yabantu ababazungezile, banendaba nentando yabo kuphela. Uzwela alukho ngaphakathi engqondweni yakho.
Lolu hlobo lwabantu luvame ukubonisa isithakazelo esingavamile kunoma yini ehlobene nobudlova noma ukufa. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi umuntu othola ukwaneliseka ngokocansi ngokuzwisa abanye ubuhlungu (ubuhlungu bocansi) akusho ukuthi unesifo sobuntu esinobudlova.
Umehluko phakathi kwe-sadism ne-masochism
Ukuzikhukhumeza ngokocansi akuhlobene nhlobo nokuhlushwa. Ekuhlushweni ngokocansi, umuntu uthola injabulo ngokuzwisa abanye ubuhlungu, kanti ekuhlushweni ngokocansi, umuntu uvukwa ulaka lapho omunye umuntu ezwisa ubuhlungu ngokuzithandela. Ngokuvamile baboshwa, bashaywe, bahlushwe ngokomzimba, bahlazeke, noma bahlukunyezwe… Lapho ukwelashwa kunamandla kakhulu, bazizwa bevukwa ulaka kakhulu.
Lesi sifiso singabangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu kanye nomuzwa wecala kumuntu ojabulela ukuthola lolu hlobo lokwelashwa. Umuntu othanda ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi angase acabange nangokushaywa, ukuboshwa, ukulimala, noma ukuhlaziswa ukuze aneliseke ngokocansi. Abanye abantu bavuswa ucansi ngokuphefumula (ukuvinjelwa ukuphefumula), kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenziwa wedwa noma nomlingani, futhi lokhu kungaholela ekufeni ngengozi.
Abantu balolu hlobo bangase bezwe usizi, ukukhathazeka, umuzwa wecala, amahloni, imicabango ecindezelayo... nxazonke zobulili. Uma umuntu engumashi wezocansi kodwa engakutholi ukucindezeleka noma yiziphi izimpawu ezimvimbela ukuba aphile impilo evamile, lokho ngeke kutholakale njengokuphazamiseka kobuntu.
Ukuziphatha kobuntu obungajwayelekile kuqala lapho umuntu ekhula, yize ngezinye izikhathi ukudlala okunonya noma okungekuhle kungase kwenzeke ebuntwaneni. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, kubalulekile ukwelapha lokhu kuziphatha ezinganeni ngokwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo ukuvimbela ukuphazamiseka kobuntu kamuva ekuphileni.