Umuntu ocindezeleke kancane angakhuthazwa ngamazwi ambalwa anomusa. Nokho, Abantu abanokucindezeleka okungokomtholampilo bakhetha ukuzwa izinto ezingezinhle. Ucwaningo oluchazwe ngezansi lubonisa ukuthi abantu abacindezelekile abagwemi nje kuphela ukuphawula okuhle kodwa bafuna ngenkuthalo impendulo negative.
Ababhali bocwaningo bathole ukuthi Abantu abanokucindezeleka bavame ukuzibandakanya ezindaweni ezisekela imibono yabo engemihle ngabo. Laba bantu abacindezelekile bavame ukuziqhelelanisa nalabo abazama ukubasiza ngokuziphatha okufana nalokhu:
- Ukuzikhuluma okunobutha nokubi
- Ukuntula impendulo.
- Banciphisa ukuthintana kwamehlo.
- Izimpawu zobuso ezingezinhle.
- Izinkulumo ezihamba kancane futhi eziyisicefe.
Ngalolu cwaningo, ababhali banikeza ubufakazi obuphakamisa ukuthi abantu abanokucindezeleka kwesinye isikhathi bazibandakanya nalokhu kuziphatha ukuze bavuse ukuphawula okungekuhle.
Ocwaningweni lwabo, ababhali baqasha amaqembu amathathu ababambiqhaza:
- Abantu abahlushwa ukucindezeleka okungokomtholampilo (28).
- Abantu ababengadangali futhi ababenokuzethemba okukhulu (20).
- Abantu ababengadangali kodwa ababengazethembi (25).
Abahlanganyeli bacelwa ukuthi bagcwalise iphakethe lemibuzo futhi batshelwa ukuthi impendulo yabo izoba yisisekelo sokuhlolwa ubuntu. Lokho kuhlola kuzokwenziwa ngabafundi abaneziqu.
Kamuva ababambiqhaza banikezwa lokho ababecabanga ukuthi kwakuyizifinyezo zokuhlolwa kwabafundi abathweswe iziqu ngobuntu babo. Kodwa empeleni, wonke umuntu unezifinyezo ezimbili ezifanayo, esinye sazo esihle ("lo muntu ubonakala elungiswe kahle, eqiniseka, ejabule, njll."), kanti enye ingalungile ("lo muntu ubonakala edabukile"). angikhululekile, njll. "). Babe sebecelwa ukuthi bakhethe ukuthi yiluphi uhlobo lokuhlola okuhle nokubi abafuna ukukufunda. Baphinde bacelwa ukuthi balinganisele ukunemba kwezifinyezo ezimbili.
Amaphesenti angu-25 kuphela eqembu elizethembayo elikhethe ukuhlola okungalungile kunokuvumayo. Amaphesenti angu-64% ababambiqhaza abanokuzethemba okuphansi kodwa ababengacindezelekile bakhethe ukuhlola okungekuhle. Ngokuphambene, u-82% wabahlanganyeli abacindezelekile bakhethe ukuhlola okungalungile.
Kula maqembu amathathu, abahlanganyeli abacindezelekile kuphela abalinganisele ukuhlolwa okungalungile njengokunembe kakhudlwana.
Inkomba:
R. Brian Giesler, Robert A. Josephs, Ph.D., kanye noWilliam B. Swann, Jr., Ph.D. Ukuziqinisekisa Ngokucindezeleka Komtholampilo: Isifiso Sokuhlola Okubi. Ijenali ye-Abnormal Psychology, Umq. 105, No. 3, iphe.