It is important to recognize your psychological or mental weaknesses to be able to alleviate them or use them to your advantage. Otherwise, these weaknesses will only be a burden throughout your life, taking away your mental and even physical health.
Only if you know what they are your most limiting weaknesses, you will be able to free yourself from them and the associated problems they are causing you. That way, you will be able to allocate all your energy and potential towards the goals you want to achieve.
Furthermore, you must keep in mind that A disorder does not always mean that you have weaknesses. very pronounced. For example, depression is often associated with weakness, but that is not exactly the case...
Relationship between weaknesses and mental health
There is still a dark halo of stigmatization, concealment and taboo around mental problems. They are attempted to be ocular and are not usually talked about as openly as with physicists. This also leads to a great lack of knowledge about these disorders and, when one is detected, it is thought to be due to weakness.
But the reality is that some people who suffer from disorders, such as depression, are not always weak. Also they mentally strong can suffer from these problems. But being strong is a plus point for recovery, since they are the ones who usually take the first step to ask for help and get out of that situation.
Who judges People who suffer from these disorders do not have the slightest idea of ​​how brave and strong they have to be to endure these conditions and to ask for help. If they knew, they would never relate these disorders to weakness.
It continues to be surprising that mental illness don't treat it normally yet of physical illness. For example, when someone has the flu, no one questions: «He has been infected with SARS-CoV-2 because he is weak.«. Instead, other factors such as the time of year (outbreaks), the person's immune system, etc. are taken into account.
In addition, SARS-CoV-2 patients, when they manage to overcome the disease, they treat themselves like heroes. This is wonderful, and even more so taking into account the difficult situation that the pandemic has left. But we should learn to treat cases with mental disorders equally.
Would be better praise them as strong people who are fighting this disorder or have overcome it. Instead, some treat them as crazy, weak, etc. But they do not know that, like physical illness, mental illness is not easy to prevent in many cases and that even those who consider themselves strong could have it at some point in their lives.
Mental weaknesses
The first thing to recognize that you have weaknesses is to identify what yours are. Each person is different, and we are all a very diverse compendium of strengths and weaknesses. And you shouldn't feel ashamed of having them, just know what they are to minimize their negative impact, eliminate them or turn them into strengths.
"Who would have thought, the weak truly never give up."
Mario Benedetti
Concern
To worry It's not bad, but to a certain extent. When you suffer from a disorder like anxiety, the amount of time you spend worrying can skyrocket. So it is a weakness that should alert you that something is not right.
"My life was full of misfortunes, many of which never happened."
René Descartes
The word itself already gives an idea of ​​the magnitude of this problem.. If you decompose it, it is made up of the prefix pre+occupy. That is, how much you take care of something in advance. That will only lead you to be in a negative state that will do little to solve the problem.
think one thing:
- Does your problem have a solution?
- Yes. Then you should not worry, just look for the solution.
- No. Then why worry, there is nothing to do. You will only be bad and also have the problem.
- You are anticipating events that you don't know if they will happen or not.
- If they happen, then worrying will have done you no good. Only to be bad and not put some kind of remedy in case there was one.
- If they don't happen, you will have been bitter for a while without any need.
You must live in the here and now. The past is the past, you cannot predict the future, only the now matters. In fact, if you want to control tomorrow you must act on today. I would recommend that you watch a movie called The peaceful Warrior, or read Dan Millman's book, the incredible true case on which the movie is based. It will inspire you…
Impatience
La impatience It is another of the weaknesses. It can be a big obstacle to achieving your goals, even though it may seem like the opposite. The impatient person does not accelerate what he/she expects so much, in many cases he/she pushes it away or makes it not what was expected.
The reason is that impatience leads you to making hasty decisions or doing things quickly and poorly. The result will be the complete opposite of what you had planned. And keep in mind that in some things you can go back and start from scratch, but in other things in life you can't...
Learn to wait and work on your patience. Everything has its time, just wait for that time to come. That does not mean falling into impassivity or stopping doing things to achieve the goal. It's just about going with a firm step towards the goal, to avoid getting lost along the way.
Selfishness
El selfishness and your ego They are not good friends. If they get between you and your goals, they will be another obstacle. This can lead you to lose family ties, friendships, and be left alone. Without the support and affection that is so necessary when you need a pat on the back, a gesture of empathy, a hug, or a reminder that you can and are doing well.
In short, fewer people by your side or willing to help you when you need it. Furthermore, when you are selfish, on many occasions it will lead you to feel certain remorse for your behavior. That mental load does not add up, quite the opposite.
Jealousy and envy
The jealousy and envy They are another of the weaknesses that you have to identify, if you have them.
Jealousy makes you feel urgent need to control other people's lives around you, whether for fear of losing them, or for other reasons. When that jealousy is pathological, that can lead you to even harm them, and that is not loving a person...
El result will be similar to that of selfishness, that is, cutting the ties that bind you to others and being left alone. You have to understand that, just like you, others also need a certain independence and freedom. That doesn't mean that they stop loving you or that they walk away.
All the world does not revolve around you, and you can't want it all either. If someone wins a prize, makes an acquisition, or has something that you don't have, healthy envy is normal. But unhealthy envy becomes entrenched and makes it cloud your path towards your goals and only obsesses you about the feeling you have towards that person who has achieved what you wanted.
Cowardice
The Ostriches They hide their heads and leave their entire body outside. They believe that since they do not see the threat, the threat no longer sees them. Nothing could be further from the truth…
El fear, or cowardice, It is probably the worst of the weaknesses and the one that generates the most problems in your life. To get what you want, sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone, where you have a feeling of security, but which prevents you from moving forward.
You must be like a lynx, who is curious, seeks new experiences, acts quickly, is decisive and very astute. The opposite is to be like a clam, which is boring, skittish, and when something goes wrong around it, it closes in its shell to isolate itself.
«The greatest disability is fear.«
Nick Vujicic
I recommend you read the book The knight in the rusty armor by Robert Fisher. A fairly short book, but not wasted. It will make you understand how important it is to have courage.
conformism
Sometimes you can act like a moth, adapting to the environment around you and blending in with it to adopt a comfortable posture. But conformism It is not good, it is similar to the fear that makes you not take the necessary steps to achieve what you want so much.
Sometimes this conformity comes simply from adopting the most comfortable position. At other times it is because of the belief that you are not going to be able to achieve something, so why try it? But if you don't try you will never know if you can or not. In fact, you'd be surprised how many times someone has been told "you can not» and they have achieved incredible things. Also do not allow the one who is telling you «you can not» be yourself…
«We do not dare to many things because they are difficult, but they are difficult because we do not dare to do them.«
Seneca
Yes you can and, in the worst case, you will surely get much more than what you have now. You must be ambitious to achieve great things. The more doors you knock on, the more chances you will have that one will open, the higher you look, the higher you will go. You have nothing to lose, but everything to gain!
A teacher I had in high school used to say in class: "Always go for 10. Then you will stay at 8 or 9. But if you go for 5, then you will stay at 3 or 4.«.
Resentment
The world is not to blame for what happens to you. You must learn to stop being anchored in the past and carry the resentment like a heavy sentence that you carry throughout your life. Free yourself from that problem and do not allow it to torment you all your life.
Although this feeling is difficult to overcome, since it is caused by deep damage that is stored inside, you have to make an effort to achieve it.
Whether you have been attacked, offended, or anything else, you must learn to forgive (or at least accept). This frees you emotionally, and prevents you from falling into other problems derived from resentment, such as social isolation, loss of friends or family, etc.
Dependence
There are many types of dependence. From emotional dependence, physical dependence on objects or people, dependence on substances such as drugs, etc. This dependence makes you fall into the false conclusion that without what you depend on you cannot live or, at least, not in the same way.
But this dependency it is not a solution, it only keeps you tied for longer to that thing on which you depend and prevents you from finding a valid solution to your problems or to get what you want.
When you fall into this dynamic, you will have the feeling of having wasted time valuable that you can no longer recover. Therefore, you must begin to stand up for yourself and overcome that dependency that now binds you.
Close yourself to new experiences
When you close yourself off to new experiences, you prevent yourself from focusing on new challenges or fronts that could bring a positive change or improvement to your life. That also paralyzes your personal development, and makes you a more incomplete person.
Si you dare to take the first step, a new world of experiences will open before you and you will discover wonderful things. Allow yourself to get out of your comfort zone and seek new experiences from time to time. The feeling of satisfaction will be immense.
Who tells you that if you take that step you won't you are going to come across that opportunity that you have dreamed of so much, or with that person you love, etc.?
Wrath
Lastly, the wrath It is another of the great weaknesses. Although it may sound a bit like a joke, Master Yoda says a wise phrase in the movie Star Wars: «Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering, suffering to the dark side.«
Everyone can feel anger at some point in their life, but bad management This can trigger a series of problems that can lead you to do truly crazy things that you will regret only when it is too late.
Anger leads to expressing anger in multiple ways, and one of them is the violence that could lead you to harm someone. Generating pain, suffering or harm in others will not make yours stop. That only brings problems and blinds you.
Try relax, be empathetic and put yourself in the other person's shoes. Think twice before doing something... In many cases you will realize that the person with whom you are trying to vent your anger is not even to blame for what happens.
Turn your weaknesses into strengths
So you can use those weaknesses to your advantage, You must turn them into strengths. Only in this way will you heal and be able to seek balance. To reach that state, you have to do the following:
- Love and respect yourself. Only in this way will you be able to love and respect others.
- Identify weaknesses and don't feel frustrated with them.
- Stop at each one of them and try to get The positive side. Talking about them can also help you.
- Find a solution to those toxic people They try to take advantage of your vulnerabilities to get some profit.
- Try develop strength that counteracts a weakness. For example, if you are selfish, try to give to others. You will see how it comforts you, not only will it end your weakness, but it will have been transformed into strength...